My Thoughts on: How to Hug a Porcupine by June Eding
If you've ever felt challenged by a prickly personality - be it a colleague, family member, or friend - June Eding's How to Hug a Porcupine offers gentle reminders, in bite-sized pieces, to help navigate these relationships. June uses the porcupine as a metaphor for individuals who are defensive or hard to approach, and also provides practical strategies for those around them to foster understanding and connection.
About the Author
June Eding is a New York City-based author known for her accessible self-help books that blend empathy with actionable advice. In How to Hug a Porcupine, she draws upon psychological insights and real-life scenarios to help readers manage interactions with challenging individuals.
So what were my top 3 takeaways from the book?
Empathy is Key
Understanding that challenging behaviours often stem from fear or past experiences can help us respond with compassion rather than frustration. Although I already knew this in theory, I had a real lightbulb moment about a situation in my own life while reading this. Thank you, June!
Self-Awareness Matters
Recognising our defensive reactions - the “inner porcupine” - allows for more mindful interactions and prevents unnecessary escalation. But of course, we can be porcupines too!
Effective Communication Builds Bridges
Utilising active listening and respectful dialogue can defuse tension and open the door to healthier, more productive relationships.
Final Thoughts
How to Hug a Porcupine gently reminds us that with patience, empathy, and the right tools, we can navigate even the most challenging relationships. That was certainly my takeaway and one I’ll continue to reflect on in my interactions with others!
If you’ve read this book (or plan to), I’d love to know:
👉 What was your biggest “aha” moment?
👉 How do you approach the “porcupines” in your life?
